I was 30 years old when it happened to me. I was attending a business meeting when a respected leader asked everyone in the room a simple question: "What is your goal?" The women around me spoke about homes, cars, and financial security. When it was my turn, I surprised myself. "I want a child," I said. Then I added that my husband dreamed of owning a home on a hill overlooking the lights of […]
Men looking to date over the age of 65 have asked me on several occasions, “What do women want?” I found this intensely interesting while listening to their responses when I asked them, “What do you want in a relationship?” Oftentimes they say: My research — both personal and historical — suggests these are important questions to ponder. Dating later in life is often very different than dating at 30, 40, or even 60. Many men over […]
The Truth About Relationships, Loneliness, Independence, and Hope Later in Life Last evening, I sat with a woman who is 65 years young, and we began discussing dating at this age. She was saddened by her recent experiences. She said they seem to want to jump into bed right away, and that is not who she is. I asked her what she wants in a companion. She sighed and said, “I guess I am a […]
Over the years — personally and professionally — I've learned that emotionally healthy people bring clarity and peace, while emotionally unhealthy dynamics create confusion, self-doubt, and exhaustion. Many people find themselves drained, anxious, or questioning their own judgment after time spent with someone whose behavior feels manipulative, self-centered, or emotionally unsafe. Whether in dating, friendship, family, or business, these dynamics leave people feeling depleted and unseen. Recognizing the patterns early can protect your emotional well-being, […]
Several years ago in San Diego, I found myself doing what so many of us do—I was venting to a friend about everything that was going wrong in my role as VP of the Northeast. She listened patiently for a good half hour, and then she said something that stopped me in my tracks: “Lynette, I hear what you don’t want… and I’m wondering—what is it that you do want?” I was stunned by her insight. Even more stunned […]
There are moments in life when everything feels busy and unclear at the same time. You may be active, responsible, and engaged, yet still feel unsettled beneath the surface. Decisions feel heavier than usual. Your energy feels scattered. You sense that something important wants your attention, but it hasn’t fully taken shape yet. In times like these, clarity rarely comes from pushing forward. It comes from pausing long enough to listen. Very often, what is […]
Inspired by Brian Tracy’s timeless goal-setting exercise If you’ve worked with me for any length of time, you know I’m a big believer in clarity. Clarity precedes confidence. Confidence precedes action. But so often, we skip right to the how before we’ve ever taken a breath to ask ourselves, What do I truly want? One exercise I often use with everyone comes from the brilliant Brian Tracy. It’s deceptively simple, but it cuts through the noise of everyday life. […]
Why Success Keeps Slipping Away Success isn’t hiding from you. It’s not bad luck, the wrong timing, or Mercury in retrograde. More often than not, the reason you’re not hitting your goals is simple: you’re getting in your own way. This is called self-sabotage. It’s when you unconsciously (or sometimes very consciously) derail your own progress through procrastination, excuses, or distractions. Buying the planner instead of using it. Researching for weeks instead of starting. Binge-scrolling instead […]
These are the five steps to learning. I wrote them down over thirty years ago, in the middle of a strategy course that shifted my entire perspective. They’ve stayed with me ever since. They are etched into the way I teach, coach, lead, and live. It’s a simple framework, but one that explains why people are so afraid to take on new beginnings. Whether it’s learning to draw, riding a bike for the first time, […]
Let’s be real—life doesn’t always go the way we plan. And if you're leading others, that unpredictability can feel like a storm you're expected to navigate with a smile. But here’s what I know to be true: real leadership isn't just about staying strong in the storm. It's about understanding the system you're in, choosing to play the game of work with intention—and then making it fun. It's about results, yes, but it's also about meaning. Leadership that transforms lives starts with resilience, but it doesn’t end there. It expands into vision, structure, focus, and team.
