Lynette calls our familiar patterns our already-always way of thinking. We repeat certain thoughts and behaviors so often that they begin to feel natural, even inevitable. Then we make a sincere decision to change and find ourselves doing the same thing again.
That does not mean we lack desire or determination. It means a decision alone may not reveal the pattern behind the behavior. Lynette assists people to become curious about what they do automatically. Once we can see a pattern, we have a chance to choose something different.
Lynette believes there is freedom in saying, “I don’t know yet.” It opens the door to questions: What am I assuming? What do I want? What else might be possible? Often, we don’t know what we don’t know and therefore have no questions and when we don’t have a question we don’t have power.
For her, coaching is a conversation of discovery. She does not claim to have someone else’s answers. She asks questions that assist people in discovering their own answers, then consider what they want to do with what they have learned.
If we do not know where we want to go, how can we tell whether our choices are taking us there?
Lynette encourages people to describe the future they want in specific terms. What would it look like? How would it feel? How much, how many, and by when? She calls this Crystal Clear Clarity: bringing a desire into focus until it becomes a picture you can recognize and act upon.
Clarity gives direction, but Lynette also teaches what she calls a Position of Neutrality. Be clear about what you want while remaining open to how it may unfold. When fear of losing a particular outcome takes over, it becomes harder to think clearly or notice another path.
These ideas work together in a coaching session with Lynette: clarity helps you choose a direction, and neutrality helps you stay steady as you move.
Transitions can leave an unexpected empty space. Retirement, a career change, divorce, loss, or children leaving home may change the structure that once gave each day its shape.
Lynette encourages people to keep creating a future. What would you like the next year to contain? What about the next three or five? You do not have to plan every detail. You can begin by imagining a life that invites you forward and taking a step toward it.
Curiosity matters here, too. Lynette writes about Lazy Mind Syndrome: the gradual narrowing that can happen when we stop asking questions, learning, and trying unfamiliar things. In her view, growth does not have an expiration date. You can read more of her reflections in Insights for Success.
Starting something new often feels uncomfortable. Lynette wants people to understand that discomfort is part of learning, rather than proof that they cannot succeed.
In The 5 Stages of Mastery, she describes a path from Beginner to Virtuoso. Every unfamiliar skill starts at the beginning. Giving yourself permission to be there makes it possible to learn, practice, and grow.
Choice is central to Lynette’s work. A coach can offer questions, perspective, and experience. The client decides what fits and what to do next.
Lynette describes herself as an advisor, never a dictator. She believes people grow stronger when they become more aware of their options and take ownership of their decisions. As she often says, dignity lives in the power of choice.
Even small changes in language can make a difference. “Would you like to get together?” offers a choice. “I feel…” takes responsibility for one’s own experience. Lynette asks people to notice how their words influence both their relationships and their sense of what is possible. When you change your words, you can begin to change your world.
Personal growth is not one moment when everything changes. It is an ongoing practice of noticing, questioning, choosing, trying, and learning again.
The future you once pictured may change. You may discover a new goal or return to something you set aside years ago. Lynette’s invitation is to stay curious, keep your power of choice, and give yourself permission to begin.
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