The victim, the persecutor and the rescuer triangle is a powerful set of three that we could all experience at one time or another. It is often found in dysfunctional families and many other interpersonal relationships. The problem with this triangle is that no one can ever win because the roles shift and there is never a balance. For example, a friend came to me and shared of her upset with her husband. She felt […]
Your mind is your true essence. How things look on the outside of you always depends on how things are on the inside of you. Your thoughts have brought you to where you are today. Your actions always mirror your thoughts. Take a good look at where you are and what you're doing, and you can understand what you've been thinking. Your behavior is the perpetual revealing of yourself. What you do, tells everyone who and what you are. Change your […]
The ability to compromise makes our lives and relationships run more smoothly, even if the concept sometimes seems challenging to implement. Here are some of the advantages of compromising as well as some techniques for finding a middle ground. Good Reasons to Compromise Techniques for Making Constructive Compromises Learning to give and take helps everyone to wind up with more in the end. Stay true to yourself while being open to making accommodations that create […]
You cannot have the success you seek without some failures too. Any experience can be transformed into something of value. Everything depends on the way you look at things. What appear to be stumbling blocks and defeat before you can be stepping stones to victory if you remain determined. In all of your adversities lie the seeds of equivalent advantages. In every defeat there is a lesson showing you how to win the next time. View your problems as […]
Every big accomplishment is a series of little accomplishments. To achieve maximum success you must accept that progress is made one step at a time. A building is built one brick at a time. Football games are won one play at a time. A business grows bigger one customer at a time. You walk over the highest mountain one step at a time. Success is the sum of small efforts repeated day in and day out. Nothing great is created suddenly, any […]
The most important quality essential to success is perseverance. It overcomes almost everything, even nature. Success is connected with continuous action. It's largely a matter of hanging on after others have let go. You're not finished when you're defeated, you're only finished when you quit. You can have a fresh start any time you choose, for "failure" is not in the falling down, but in the staying down. It's not over until it's over. And it's only over when YOU say […]
Most people say “win-win” but I add a third win. With that third win, comes greater successes. Win-win-win means working as a team. Building the team through wins is the most productive way of building companies, relationships, communities, and neighborhoods. Everybody has strengths and weaknesses. When we work synergistically together with a system—you have to have systems in place so the team knows where they stand—then everyone on the team wins. With Win-Win-Win we won’t […]
Today is Valentine's Day, and there is no better day to talk about cooperation than today. Any and all relationships require cooperation for success. The world is primarily constituted on the basis of harmony.Everything works in cooperation with something else. Personal relationships are the fertile soilfrom which all advancement, all success,all achievement in real life grows. Put yourself in another's place.Only then will you know why they think and do certain things.Once you understand how quickly […]
Your imagination is your mental workshop where all your plans are fashioned. Visualize your goals and you'll get your subconscious to work toward making your mental pictures come true. Picture yourself in your minds eye as having already achieved your goal. See yourself doing the things you'll be doing when you've reached your destination. Olympic medalists use the art of mental rehearsal or visualization. They mentally run through important events before they happen. Decide what you want out of your life. Sense it […]
If you do the right things right, you're going to succeed. If you have correct goals, and you keep pursuing them the best way you know how, everything else will fall into line. You are what and where you are today because you first imagined it. Knowing where you want to go is all you need to get there. Just return over and over to that picture in your mind of the place you are headed for. The first time I […]
